- Begin the discussion about treatment options
- Don’t be preoccupied with what is on your agenda or what you believe or don’t believe you should offer
- Assume the patient or relatives understand the implications of their illness
- Ask ‘Do you want us to do everything’
- Use the words ‘futile treatment’
- Talk in absolutes e.g ‘no chance’, ‘won’t survive’
- Use crass phrases ‘jump on chest’, ‘break ribs’, ‘shock the heart’
- Feel obligated to go into excruciating detail about every type of medical intervention possible
- Focus on potential benefits without speaking about potential risks or harms
- Be vague about the situation or the prognosis
- Appear to rush the process
DO
- Focus on the patient’s experience of their illness
- Be frank and honest about the state of someone’s acute or chronic illness and overall untreated and treated prognosis
- Relate disease and daily function
- Be prepared to use the term ‘dying’ or ‘likely will die’
- Centre the discussion around personal values and quality of life
- Contextualise the discussion of values back to the potential of imminent life-threatening illness or death.
- Put short-term prognosis in the context of mid to long term prognosis
- First talk in generalities of a continuum of minimally-invasive therapies with low discomfort to highly-invasive therapies with unavoidable high discomfort
- Reinforce that it is a combination of patients wishes, comfort and dignity that guides any decision
- Reassure that withdrawal of treatment is not the same as withdrawal of care or symptom control
- Verify everyone’s understanding
- Give space to the patient and loved ones to digest the discussion before requesting a response
REMEMBER
Patients and family
- always hope that death comes swiftly and painlessly and consequently avoid EOL decisions
- may not anticipate or conceive that death follows a brief period of acute illness
- may feel guilty of accelerating death by withholding treatment but do not know that providing treatment may increase suffering
- do not tolerate uncertainties or probabilities and have an unrealistic need for definitive answers
- may minimise the amount of discomfort or suffering during a chronic illness
- are often confused about what is involved in medical care
- may focus more on the potential benefits of life-saving care rather than its likelihood of benefit or more importantly likelihood of harm
- do not understand the implications of invasive medical interventions e.g. CPR, intubation, mechanical ventilation, dialysis
- do not factor in the impact of convalescence from acute illness on quality-of-life